Ask Che: on love, consciousness and the stories we carry.

A column of reflective writing on love, relationships, self-worth, culture, identity, meditation and family stories. Longer than an answer; shorter than a book.

Featured · Culture & Belonging What We Learn About Love Before We Can Speak Most of us were taught a theory of love long before we had words for it. We spend adulthood acting on it without ever reading it. Read · 6 min

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Self-Love & Identity The Stories We Inherit About Our Worth Self-love is not a mood you achieve. It is a set of claims you are willing to make about yourself when no one is agreeing with you. Read Meditation & Awareness Noticing Before Naming Most of what we call intuition is a conclusion we reached quickly. Meditation offers something less comfortable and more useful: the pause before the conclusion. Read Intimacy & Connection The Conversation You Keep Not Having The thing you are not saying is not staying still. It is organizing the relationship around itself. Read Love & Dating Dating With Your Eyes Open Dating is not a test of how desirable you are. It is a practice of perception, and most of us are looking at the wrong things. Read Consciousness & Belief Belief Is a Practice What you believe about love is not a fact you discovered. It is a habit you maintain, which means it can be examined, and eventually, changed. Read

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